Do you want to get your ex back? Are you unsure how to win back their love? If so, don’t worry – you’re not alone.
When it comes to your relationship with your ex, are you afraid to put yourself out there? Would you like to ask them out again, but you just don’t want to risk the rejection? If you are, I don’t blame you. It can be nerve wrecking and sometimes it feels like the risks are just too high.
What if your ex doesn’t feel the same way you do? What if your ex doesn’t respond? But then again, what if your ex does feel the same way and has been afraid to take the first step as well?
What if your ex *would* respond positively and both of you could take the next step towards reuniting? If you ask me, the risks are worth it. It’s worth giving it a try. You CAN get your ex back.
In order for that to happen, a few things must happen.
1. You must stop any mistakes that are actually hurting your chances to get back together with your ex. Begging and bargaining are the #1 mistake most people make. “I promise if you get back with me I’ll do this and I’ll stop doing that.” This almost never works.
Not seeing your situation objectively is another common mistake. Breakups cause emotional trauma and too often we act on those emotions. A better approach is to look at your situation realistically and objectively and make decisions according to reason, not emotion. This sounds easier to say than do, but not only is it possible, it’s imperative.
In my newsletter I detail 10 breakup mistakes that make it next to impossible to get back together.
2. You must change the dynamic of the relationship. Remember, your ex didn’t stop loving the traits and characteristics that initially attracted them to you. Your ex fell in love with you for who you are. Although your situation changed, your ex is still attracted to those characteristics you possess. You can win back their love after you change the dynamics of the relationship.
3. You must resolve the problems that led to your breakup in the first place. More than anything, you want to avoid a breakup cycle. Believe it or not, this is easier to accomplish than you might imagine.